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    The Criminal Justice System Sucks
    April 12, 2014
    The Criminal Justice System Sucks Today I was watching the show Jail and I saw a young lady come in there charged with prostitution. The girl said that she had a drug problem and had been selling her body to feed her addiction. She had a daughter that the state had taken away from her and she had been in and out of jail several times on drug related offenses. The girl said that she was caught in a cycle of using drugs, selling her body to get drugs, getting arrested, getting out and living on the streets, and then doing it all over again. Looking at this girls story just plain confused me, if the person keeps going to jail over and over again then at what point do we decide that jail doesn’t cure addiction? First you say the drugs are illegal and she goes to jail for that and then you say it’s illegal for her to sell her own body so she goes to jail for that. The way I see it this girl hasn’t committed one crime against another person or property but yet she is being carted off to jail over and over again. What the justice system is saying is that they are protecting this girl by not allowing her to sell her body or use drugs. The government is claiming that they are doing her some service by placing her in jail for months on end but in all of this service that the government is claiming to be giving people why is a home not included? I’m not saying that everyone should get a home or have their needs taken care of by the government as a matter of fact I think that most people can and should stand on their own two feet but the problem is that the government feels the need to get involved in a person’s life to a certain point then just leave them hanging. Do you think that this girl couldn’t sell her body for a place to stay if you didn’t make it illegal? If prostitution was like any other 9 to 5 just, would she have lost her child to the state? I have to question if the state is putting people in a better or worse predicament by arresting them for harming themselves. It just feels like they are saying “we care enough to put you in jail but not enough to really help you when you get out.” I say help them all the way or just leave people the hell alone. Let me know what you think [small]Image courtesy of Naypong / FreeDigitalPhotos.net[/small]
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    What Has Become of The Holidays
    April 12, 2014
    What Has Become of The Holidays Today, I was on Facebook reading other people’s pages and wondering how much of what I was reading was true and how much was a ploy for sympathy or attention. I looked at some pictures of friends and their kids and read countless posts complaining about everything from traffic to deadbeat dads. What actually caught my attention was something that wasn’t there, something that I had gotten used to seeing around this time of year and had grown to love to hate. Where was all of the blind, crippled, crazy holiday optimism? Where were all of the ridiculous Halloween pictures of three year old dressed as ladybugs and pumpkins? Normally, by this time most people would be talking about going to visit family for Thanksgiving and some people would already be working out their Christmas plans. I found myself torn between appreciation for that fact that I don’t have to see how nice Little Billy looked in his Power Ranger costume and the feeling that the world had changed. The holiday season has changed from a time to be with family members that you can’t really stand and give thanks for the fact that your many hardships didn’t kill you to a time to isolate yourself and gain even more distance from humanity. Why no pictures of Little Billy, because half of the most people have stopped bothering to go trick or treating with their kids. Why no Thanksgiving and Christmas plans with the family, because with the divorce rate being what it is most people don’t even have a family left to go home to.   I used to dread the holidays because it was the only time of the year that I felt nothing was good enough. The job I worked at was sub-par, someone’s relationship status was always better, and hell even the kids became a competition. Seeing family for the holidays can be like crossing the interstate on foot and just trying not to get hit. Even with all of that, the holidays always felt like a time to connect with family and even people that you didn’t know. Hearing stories about another person’s Christmas or Thanksgiving disaster made us all feel a little bit better about our own family. I enjoyed comparing how much candy I got from trick or treat with other people and making fun of how stupid everyone else’s costume was (because whatever I had on had to be cool). Now, look I’m not saying that I will ever be a holiday fanatic but what I am saying is for all of the anxiety, inconvenience and depression that the holidays bring, they also bring us together. Maybe your family does tap dance on your last, hanging nerve and maybe it is easier to just spend the holidays playing video games, watching YouTube and binge eating but what are high calorie foods and mindless entertainment without the people you love to share it with. [small]Image courtesy of Sattva / FreeDigitalPhotos.net[/small]  
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    Top 10 Ways to Fail at Anything
    April 12, 2014
    Top 10 ways to Fail at Anything 10. Be the kind of person that focuses on the fact that I started with number ten. Focusing on small things while ignoring the big picture will ensure that you never really see anything. 9. Be sure to alienate your friends and family. You will need these allies in the future and you want to make sure that they are too bitter with past deeds to help you. 8. Start several projects at once never allowing yourself the time to be successful at one before you start another. This will ensure that you never have a chance to build any confidence or learn from mistakes. 7. Make sure that you’re greedy and dishonest in your dealings with everyone. This will ensure that your reputation precedes you and you will only attract other greedy opportunists to any of your endeavors. 6. Inundate yourself with drugs and alcohol keeping you from looking at the world and your personal predicament clearly so that you will never be in danger of solving your core problems and getting on the road to a healthy life. 5. Always being late and unprepared because showing up on times shows commitment and will gain allies that would most likely help you even if you are less than qualified. Being prepared gives you an advantage over others with more talent and is really failure’s kryptonite. 4. Refuse to make new friends, making new friends changes your circle thereby changing the results that you have been getting thus far. You just can’t avoid success if you risk meeting new allies. People know people so by meeting new people you are bound to find someone that can and will help you and that is just not a good way to ensure failure. 3. Don’t you dare enjoy the journey, looking at your journey to your goal as being fulfilling in and of itself gives you energy to go on and makes it far less likely that you will become disenchanted with what you are doing and give up. You must stay in utter misery until you accomplish your goal, pushing everyone away that cares about you and wearing yourself out emotionally so that you will have no energy to attack your opportunities when they come. 2. Surround yourself with negativity at all times, you must be sure to only associate with people that have no dreams and no ability to believe in or encourage yours. Be sure to only tell the people about your dreams that won’t understand them. Make sure that the people you talk to shoot holes in everything that you want to do until you don’t even believe in your dreams any more. You must spend all of your time with complete losers that make you feel that it is normal to be a complete loser also. You must understand that being around positive people and positive situations will give you an infinite amount of energy to draw from and make it almost impossible for you to fail at the things that you are passionate about. 1. This one is most important, if you don’t listen to anything else that I have told you about failing, you must be sure to do this. Never ever forgive yourself for past mistakes. You must allow your past failures to eat away at you and destroy your confidence. You must let your past mistakes cause you to feel that your thoughts and opinions are completely invalid. To ensure absolute failure you must believe that people that have more than you are smarter, funnier and more talented than you are and that the mistakes that you have made in the past are a reflection of how inadequate you are as a human being. You have to really believe that failure is your destiny and those who have achieved before you are actually favored by a higher power and you will never have the ability to overcome your past to have a bright future. If you forgive yourself for your mistakes and realize that they qualify you as an expert in what not to do, then you will realize that through your failure you have become an expert in success, this is completely unacceptable because the loss of confidence is the only thing that makes failures failure. I’m telling you that if you start taking a sober look at the past and begin to believe in yourself again then your mistakes actually give you an advantage over those who never made them and we just can’t have that.   [small]Image courtesy of Sattva / FreeDigitalPhotos.net[/small]  
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    Chazz Asks: Do you think it's an insult for a man to ask for a DNA test?
    April 20, 2014
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    Chazz Asks: Do you think it was a good idea for Mimi Foust to do the sex tape?
    April 27, 2014
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    Chazz Asks: If you break up with someone that lives with you do you think it's okay to kick them out of the house that day?
    April 27, 2014
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    Should the NBA increase the age limit to 20 years old?
    April 28, 2014
    Should the NBA increase the age limit to 20 years old? Since 2005, the NBA has banned players coming directly from high school to the league. The NBA requires that players complete one year of college before turning pro and now the NBA is trying to increase the requirement so that a player must be at least 20 years old. This decision has placed most fans in two camps, those who think that the NBA requirement is too much and those who feel that it’s not enough. The argument against the college requirement is that players are risking injury in college when they could be playing under a guaranteed NBA contract. Many state that players are not likely to graduate from college and a few years of college experience really isn’t worth the risk of possible injury that comes with it. Most players feel that the choice should be up to the individual player as it is their future at stake. Most people who feel that the college requirement is not enough argue that players are being exploited and countless ballers leave college early only to have their hopes and dreams dashed on the rocks when they go undrafted. Many people argue that most of these players will eventually go broke even if they do make it to the league due to lack of education and money management skills. Even former players admit that having a college education would have benefited them greatly after their departure from the league. Both camps make some really good points and the truth is probably somewhere in the middle but my question is why is it the NBA’s job to care about what’s best for the players? What employer puts the good of their employee’s above that of the company? They made the one year college rule because it benefits the NBA and they are trying to implement the rule that makes the minimum age 20 years old, for the same reason. The bottom line is that the NBA has everything to gain by increasing the age limit and almost nothing to lose. The truth is that NBA teams have been burned by early entries many times in the past. Even many of the players that had success after forgoing college did so after a few years of development and a new team. What NBA teams are looking for is players that can help them now and in the future. Teams don’t want to be forced to gamble on an unproven prospect when they could gather so much more information from watching them perform in a college setting. As it is, teams are forced to use early draft picks on players based on potential gleaned from their performances against overmatched high school opponents and college players who haven’t had much time to figure them out. People like to do their research before they make an investment and the NBA is making a big one in each of these players. The funny thing about the implementation of the higher age requirement is that it won’t only help NBA owners but existing players as well. Now they won’t have to worry about college freshman coming in and taking their spots on the team. As a matter of fact even the college players themselves would benefit from a higher age requirement, if most freshman and sophomores are made ineligible for the draft, juniors and seniors will have far less competition and get a chance to have a year or two in the league that would not have been possible for many. Some college players are good enough to give a team immediate help but don’t possess the “upside” to make teams choose them over their younger, less developed classmates. Sure, players risk injury by playing in college instead of going to the league as quickly as possible. That’s why they have insurance policies for physical health but there are no insurance policies against going to into a man’s game before you are ready and becoming another tragic case for both teams and players to constantly talk about, can we say Kwame Brown or Jonathan Bender? [small]Image courtesy of Xedos4/ FreeDigitalPhotos.net[/small]
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    Chazz Asks: Describe the worst date that you have ever been on.
    April 28, 2014
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    Celebrating Father's Day
    June 16, 2014
    This Father's Day we want to acknowledge the vital role that fathers have in shaping the self-esteem of their daughters. Rather than simply saying thank you to all of the fathers out there we want to express the true importance that fathers have in their daughter’s lives. Black girls have so many challenges when it comes to their self-esteems. They need loving support and the parents role in helping her achieve a positive self-esteem Is so important. Both parents should work to help their daughters lead happier, more fulfilling, and successful lives. In Dr. Margaret J. Meeker’s book Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know she says, “From the first years of a girl’s life her father is larger than life. She looks up to him, and for the rest of her life she craves his admiration, his respect and his affection.” The influence of a father permeates every aspect of a girl’s life. Her research finds that girls with active fathers, achieve higher academic success, exhibit less anxiety and stress, are less likely to engage in premarital sex, drug and alcohol abuse, and have higher self-esteems. The bond that a daughter has with her father carries her through life. The father’s relationship with his daughter deeply influences her life and her actions. There is a song by John Mayer called “Daughters”. I think it is a beautiful song that really expresses the concept of parents influence on their daughters lives so well. As parents we want our children to be successful in all areas of their lives including their relationships. As this song says beautifully, fathers are a huge part in how their daughters view relationships. There is an extremely touching video from Dove Men+Care that perfectly shows how many times in life children call on their fathers. As I watched this video, I couldn't help but reflect on how much these children gained from having their fathers to lean on and how much father's deserve to be thanked for everything they contribute to their children's lives. As members of a society that many fathers are absent from the homes where their children live we need to commend those who are a part of their children's lives and foster that as well as support and encourage those who face obstacles. I watched a video a few years ago of a father singing with his daughter and it just gave me chills. What Struck me about the video was the private struggle that fathers and their children endure during separations, the loving tender moments that they share when together, and the reality that children and parents feel at "Home" when they are together. I have a message this Father's day for mothers and Fathers. Mothers, thank the fathers in your life. Remember, it is their day let them know that they are appreciated and have your children let their fathers know they are appreciated. Also, let them have the limelight, we have Mother's Day, let them have Father's Day uninhibited... Yes I said it, don't take their credit, you can be a mother but not a father, you can try to fill the gaps that children have in their lives but one thing that you cannot ever be is a father. Fathers you are so very important in the lives of your daughters. We commend you for everything you do for your children. What you do matters and has significant influence. As a closer I figured I'd throw in a feature for the blog Chocolate Hair:Vanilla Care it's an adorable article titled "Dads Doing Do's", Celebrating Dads who care for hair. http://www.chocolatehairvanillacare.com/2014/06/dads-doing-dos-celebrating-dads-who.html
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    Chazz Asks: Are you less likely to marry someone who has been married before?
    June 21, 2014
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    Chazz Asks: Do you think that you can still have a relationship with a person after you've had sex on the first date?
    August 6, 2014
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    Chazz Tags: Toys R Us Just Released this Baby Doll. Would you buy this for your kid?
    August 6, 2014
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    Chazz Asks: Is it True that All Men Cheat?
    August 7, 2014
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    Chazz Tags: Can I smell yo dick?
    August 7, 2014
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    An Odd Experience- Guest Blogger: Tina-Marie Cole, B.A.
    August 8, 2014
    As a thirty-six year old, single, urban, woman, I have dated men from a lot of different ethnicities. Living in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, I have exposure to single men from every area of the globe and I like to partake in that assortment. As of lately, a large base of my interactions have been with black men, so I have dated more black males than any other race over the last few years. I am a mixed woman and when people look at me they don’t generally see me as multi-racial. Most people view me as Hispanic, or Italian. I have also been frequently asked if I am Egyptian but often I just get odd stares. I have quite an ambiguous appearance and for the most part I just end up in the, “other” category when Americans try to place my origins. In May I graduated from the first ever H.B.C.U., Historically Black College and University, Cheyney University, I don’t want to hear any arguments from you Lincoln people…. In a Cheyney basketball voice, C.U! I dated a man on and off who graduated from Cheyney years before me and told me with my grades I would qualify for a full scholarship to attend the school, which I did. In my time at Cheyney I was shocked that even while I was at an H.B.C.U. and there were plenty of mixed students, no one initially viewed me as being part African American. When we performed psychology assignments where we had to group according to what our teacher asked, everyone always expected me to join the students in the Latino descent section, not the African American group. It was always the same two students who did not consider themselves to have black ancestry. Once again it was time for the odd stares I have become accustomed to over the years. These stares are so familiar to me. Sometimes the stares are more common from people I don’t know than greetings. I have noticed the stares increase when I am with a black man and we are displaying any sign of affection than when I am with a man of any other race. It’s insane to me that interracial dating is still a taboo subject in 2014. In my experience I have noticed the unsavory glances that I am on the receiving end of generally come from black women. Going to the local Dunkin Doughnuts for coffee can be uncomfortable at times especially if my companion is well dressed appearing educated and economically advantaged. I don’t outwardly appear white so I am guessing I am outside the realm of race trading outrage from that side of my heritage. I never see a group of natives walking around to notice any imposed aggravation. If I hold hands and am too flirty in front of the wrong black woman I can be made to feel excessively uncomfortable. I know all too well what the stare is and why I am receiving it. My mother appears to be African-American and Indian. All of my family inside Philadelphia consists of black relatives. I can feel the centuries of oppression in a glance of an older black female while I joyously date a man that should be dating her granddaughter. It’s very disheartening to be a part of a race but not be at the same time. I have a connection to all my cultures but I am saddened when I experience such things and unfortunately the frequency of feeling uncomfortable is quite often. Of all the races I have dated I have the most similarities with black men. I was raised with black relatives, my brother appears black and so does my grandfather. I have always been the question mark, especially at family reunions. I always hear the question, “Mom, do we have white people in the family”? I am the oddball. I like a range of music but mostly rock, heavy metal and some R&B. I have what I consider to be just outside of the black experience. I will never have that full experience because the world does not view me as African American even though that is what my birth certificate states. I generally get the after effect of discrimination. When people discover I’m mixed I lose the job, but I get the job in the first place. It’s as odd an experience as it is as the stares. Most of the time I want to respond with I’m mixed, get over it but there’s no point and I am generally not rude. I wish I could say it doesn’t take the enjoyment out of being out in public with my significant other but it definitely takes down my happiness level when it occurs. It’s also horrible when you experience it when you are the girlfriend your man is bringing home to meet Mom. I can tell in .4 seconds of meeting Mom how my life with this man I am falling in love with is going to continue. I wish people were more open to interracial dating. I know my relatives don’t want their outstanding son who went to college, owns his own home, drives and has a career to bring someone my color thru the door for Sunday dinner. Oddly enough I get annoyed when I see the well groomed, well-spoken man with the 100K earning potential dating every race but his own. I often feel, damn I could’ve been dating that. It’s an odd experience. An Odd Experience Tina-Marie Cole, B.A. August 5, 2014
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    To all the 2014 Graduates (High School and College)- Guest Blogger: Reggie Jenkins
    August 8, 2014
    1. I want you to look at us grown folks and go a different route. 2. College/university is NOT for everyone so don't go if you are not really motivated internally (don't just go because your parents want you to). 3. LEAVE your place of birth or your hometown...you will not grow unless you GO!! The world is much bigger than your 'hood. 4. READ, READ, READ!! (Learn about your history/culture, financial literacy, and read the dictionary) - Education is what you give yourself, not what others give you. 5. DON'T take out loans for ANYTHING!! (Car notes, credit cards, household items, etc). One of the biggest legacies that most of us leave our children is how to get and STAY in debt. 6. Take time to learn and love who you are. 7. Don't rush into relationships and sexual encounters unless you are mature enough to deal with the consequences of your decisions. 8. Deal with any hang-ups that you have with your parents and your childhood experiences. Let Go and GROW!! 9. Conquer your FEARS head on. If you fear success, then overcome it by becoming successful. If you fear flying, book a flight and go to a neighboring city (baby steps). 10. Be driven by purpose and passion, not by money. Money driven people are some of the most miserable people. IF you follow your passion and purpose, the money will come and you will be happy!! 11. Again, learn to LOVE yourself (Find positive quotes that you recite everyday, associate with only positive people, and drop negative friends/family/associates). 12. Relearn how to eat to live and not for taste. Most of us have been trained to consume toxic foods and beverages that leads to disease and death (i.e. cookies, cakes, sodas, red meat, pork, liquor, weed, etc.) - Research for yourself. 13. TRAVEL and MEET different people. Nothing can take the place of experience. 14. Going to College doesn't mean going in DEBT. Pay for it, go for free, or Don't GO!!! 15. Don't be afraid to fail, success can't come unless mistakes are made first. 16. Manhood is not defined by your Penis and womanhood is not defined by the size of your breasts/butt nor how short your skirt is. 17. STARE in the mirror everyday and say 'You are Special, important, and I LOVE YOU!!' and Believe it!! 18. Before you select a boyfriend or girlfriend, examine what they are doing and where they are going before you decide to select them. Words mean nothing, Action is everything!! 19. Don't look at your parents like they are flawless because they have flaws. Learn from their successes and failures and become BETTER!!! 20. MOVE OUT OF YOUR PARENTS' HOME!! There are too many non-productive grown children living with their parents. 21. Don't make excuses. You are responsible for your successes as well as your failures!!! 22. Develop a spiritual routine or regimen. Go beyond the beliefs of your parents and grandparents!! 23. Pray for health, strength, and a sound mind, everything else will take care of itself. 24. Every experiences is a lesson so instead of wasting time and energy on what you did wrong or why it happened to you, stay calm and LEARN from it. 25. Give to someone outside of your family and friends. Nothing is more fulfilling and rewarding than giving to others. Selflessness is the key!! Selfish people don't go far in life. 26. Listen more and talk less. 27. Don't be Afraid to Ask...Closed mouth never gets fed...There is always someone with the correct answer to your question, but you must seek counsel. 28. Expand your vocabulary. Learn at least 5 words each week. 29. Learn how to effectively communicate what you think and how you feel. "Cussing and yelling are not effective means of getting your point of view across". Remember not to repeat the dysfunctional ways that adults communicate, become better. 30. Watch more of what a person does than what he/she says. 31. If you don't go to college/university, get a skill or trade. Don't get stuck in a minimum wage job. Even if you earning or have earned a college degree, it doesn’t hurt to develop a skill or trade. 32. Look up to someone who you can touch, feel, and talk to. Too many of you are taking life lessons from rappers, celebrities, athletes, and others whom you will never meet and will never know. 33. Seek counsel from elders, not old fools. 34. Learn a 2nd language. The English language is only spoken by a small number of the world's population and more people with different tongues are becoming power brokers in America. 35. Honor those who came before you. 36. Before you act, ask yourself, "will my next act/behavior bring shame to my family?' Reggie Jenkins, Executive Director of UUNIK (‘unique’) Academy August 6, 2014 Image Courtesy of Dominici FreeDigitalPhotos.net
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    Chazz Asks: Do you think it's a good idea to send naked pics?
    August 8, 2014
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    Chazz Asks: Is marriage outdated?
    August 9, 2014
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    Chazz Asks: Should you always leave someone that cheats on you?
    August 13, 2014
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    Chazz Asks: Would you date someone who slept with your friend
    August 14, 2014
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    Chazz Asks: Have you ever had a rebound relationship?
    August 18, 2014
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    August 21, 2014
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    Chazz Asks: Was it right for the radio to make fun of Floyd Mayweather's reading
    August 24, 2014
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    Do you think people in relationships should loan each other money?
    September 1, 2014
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    Do you think Adrian Peterson Should go to Jail for Whipping his kid?
    September 22, 2014
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    How Important is Money in a Relationship?
    September 22, 2014
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    Do you Believe in Love at First Sight?
    September 22, 2014
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    PICK THE NEXT VIDEO
    September 22, 2014
    Leave a comment below and let me know what you think the next video should be.
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    Do you think the Cavs will win the Championship?
    October 9, 2014
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    Have you ever dated someone you thought was on the down low?
    October 9, 2014
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    Should married people go to strip clubs?
    October 9, 2014
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    Would you stay with your wife/husband if they went to prison?
    October 9, 2014
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    Do you think a man should be responsible for a baby if a woman poked a hole in the condom?
    October 9, 2014
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    Can you be independent if you're on public assistance?
    October 9, 2014
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    Pick the next livestream topic!
    October 27, 2014
    Here is your chance to pick the next livestream topic.  What would you like to discuss during the 11/9/14 AskChazzEllis live stream at 8pm EST? Would you like to discuss: How to start dating after a break up or What to do on a first date Comment Below
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    Gay man says he's been delivered from homo-sexuality, do you believe him?
    November 12, 2014
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    Do you think women should pay for dates?
    November 14, 2014
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    Would you date someone with kids?
    November 14, 2014
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    Can a man hit a woman back?
    November 14, 2014
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    Do you feel it's ok to spank a kid?
    November 14, 2014
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    Chazz Asks: Tell me if you see the problem with this picture
    December 17, 2014
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    Chazz Asks: Do you think race relations are better or worse than 10 years ago?
    December 18, 2014
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    Chazz Asks: Do you think long distance relationships can work?
    December 19, 2014
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    Chazz Asks: Would you date someone who lives with their parents?
    December 29, 2014
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    Do you think it is ok to date an Ex's friend?
    December 31, 2014
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    How important is it for you to be married?
    January 5, 2015
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    Could you marry someone who made far less than you?
    January 5, 2015
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    Have you ever cheated on anyone?
    January 5, 2015
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    Could you date someone who smokes?
    January 5, 2015
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    Have you ever dated a mama's boy?
    January 5, 2015
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    Before you Start Worrying about the people that don't like you...
    January 5, 2015
    Before you Start Worrying about the people that don't like you, ask yourself what they would be doing for you if they did...
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    Hazel E, Kat Williams, Ice-T, and Coco Celebrate New Year's Eve together
    January 5, 2015
    Hazel E, Kat Williams, Ice-T, and Coco celebrate New Year's Eve together. So what do you think?
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    The Truth is That Mediocrity will Never Attract Greatness
    January 6, 2015
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    Angry Father Chops off Dreadlocks of Daughter's Friend
    January 7, 2015
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    If you really loved yourself then you wouldn't put all of your energy into someone that doesn't even act like they like you most of the time
    January 8, 2015
    If you really loved yourself then you wouldn't put all of your energy into someone that doesn't even act like they like you most of the time.
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    A man is likely to mind his own business when it is worth minding. When it is not, he takes his mind off his own meaningless affairs by minding other people’s business.
    January 9, 2015
    A man is likely to mind his own business when it is worth minding. When it is not, he takes his mind off his own meaningless affairs by minding other people’s business.
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    Can you Regain Trust After Someone Cheats
    January 13, 2015
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    How important is sex in a relationship
    January 14, 2015
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    Chazz Asks: Would you date a recovering alcoholic
    January 15, 2015
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    Bill Belichick Kisses Daughter After Super Bowl Win
    February 3, 2015
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    Should People Go to Jail for Child Support
    February 15, 2015
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    Should a woman have to pay the child support back if the baby is not his
    February 15, 2015
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    Should People Go to Jail for Child Support?
    February 15, 2015
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    Should Both Parents Have Equal Rights to a Kid?
    February 15, 2015
    Answer this Chazz Asks below: Should both parents have equal rights to a kid?
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    Should Drugs Be Legal?
    February 15, 2015
    Answer this Chazz Asks below: Should drugs be legal?
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    Florida Teacher Suspended after Filming Kindergarten Fights...
    February 15, 2015
    A Florida kindergarten teacher was suspended after filming kindergarten fights. On three occasions, she filmed students fighting and showed the videos to other students as well as the school assistant principal. World Star or naw? http://www.foxnews.com/us/2015/02/15/florida-teacher-given-suspension-for-videotaping-kindergartner-beating-other/
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    Michigan Man Faces Jail time for a Child That Isn't His
    February 15, 2015
    A Michigan man is facing jail time for a child that isn't his. Carnell Alexander is facing jail time for unpaid child support on a child that DNA testing has determined is not his. Read the article below and watch the AskChazzEllis Video on the subject. http://kfor.com/2015/01/30/dad-by-default-man-could-face-jail-time-for-not-paying-child-support-for-boy-that-isnt-his/
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    Dad straps one month old to steering wheel and takes him for a spin (Watch)
    February 16, 2015
    Dad takes his son for his first spin. In this video he straps the 1 month old to the steering wheel. When confronted by police he wanted to know why that was a problem. Any words of wisdom? Drop them below.
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    Rapper Ray J Beaten by Girlfriend Princess Sustains Broken Ribs and Torn ACL
    February 17, 2015
    Rapper Ray J was reportedly beaten by Girlfriend Princess. She was arrested by law enforcement following a complaint by hotel security. Ray J sustained broken ribs, busted lip, and torn ACL. Ray J reportedly bailed her out of jail and paid her legal fees. For the full story visit: http://www.msn.com/en-us/music/celebrity/ray-j-beaten-up-by-girlfriend-princess-love/ar-BBhFQLU?srcref=rss
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    Mo'Nique 'Blackballed for Not Playing the Game after Oscar Win
    February 27, 2015
    Actress Mo'Nique recently claimed that she was blackballed from Hollywood after not "playing the game" after her Oscar win for Precious. She says the Lee Daniels told her that she was blackballed for having demands that were to high and not campaigning for her Oscar and doing what Hollywood expected of those who win Oscars. Her expectation was that after winning the Oscar she would get more respect, choices, and command higher earnings. However, she states that she has been passed over for a variety of high-profile roles. Read More: Mo'Nique Blackballed Because She is to Uppity for Hollywood What do you think of this controversy surrounding Mo'Nique? Do you think she is being blackballed. Who do you think is in the wrong, her or Hollywood? Should she have done as Hollywood expected or do you think they are only treating her his way because she is black?
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    February 27, 2015
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    Missy Elliott and Pharrell Collaborating
    February 27, 2015
    Missy Elliott and Pharrell are reportedly collaborating. What do you think will come of it? Do you think that Missy Elliott's recent Super Bowl performance will spark her come back? Do you think her and Pharrell will make a hit? VA! 2 up 2 down! Me & my fam @Pharrell hard at work pic.twitter.com/PwKHJ1k553— Missy Elliott (@MissyElliott) February 27, 2015
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    Would you date someone with chronic psychological issues?
    March 1, 2015
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    Would You Date Someone that Didn't Own a Car?
    March 1, 2015
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    Would You Marry Someone With Really Bad Credit?
    March 1, 2015
    Answer this Chazz Asks below: Would you marry someone with really bad credit?
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    Would you have a problem with your mate being best friends with your ex?
    March 1, 2015
    Answer this Chazz Asks below: Would you have a problem with your mate being best friends with your ex?
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    Does religion matter to you in a relationship?
    March 1, 2015
    Answer this Chazz Asks below: Does religion matter to you in a relationship?
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    Teen Facing Charges after Convincing Friend to Commit Suicide
    March 2, 2015
    An 18 year old girl in Massachusetts is being charged with involuntary manslaughter in the suicide death of her boyfriend. He committed suicide and she is accused of convincing him to do it. She exchanged texts with him telling him that he should go ahead and go through with the suicide inspite of the fact that he stated that he didn't want to leave his family. She now faces 20 years in prison. Watch this video and let me know what you think. Do you think she is responsible for his death and should face charges?
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    Los Angeles Police Department (LAPD) Caught on Video Shooting Homeless Man
    March 2, 2015
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    Man Throws Brick at Car, Car Throws Brick Back and Knocks Man Out
    March 4, 2015
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    Dallas 6th Grader Records Teacher's Profanity Laced Lecture
    March 5, 2015
    "If you don't give a f**k, then I don't give a f**k. If you don't give a f**k, then I don't give a f**k ," the teacher is heard saying. "I'm gonna tell you the truth, you f**ed it up." "Some people's d**k, they only go that far," the teacher said. "My d**k goes all the way to that fence." "I'm gonna show you ... I'm gonna show you what ... I'm gonna show you what a d**k is. I'm gonna d**k you're a** over."
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    Rolling Bicycle Punch Shocker: Boy pulls ultimate bike/fight stunt!!
    March 6, 2015
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    What was the biggest issue in your last relationship
    March 6, 2015
    Answer this Chazz Asks below: What was the biggest issue in your last relationship?
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    Would you date someone that smokes weed?
    March 6, 2015
    Answer this Chazz Asks below: Would you date someone that smokes weed?
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    Would you date someone that was behind on their child support payments
    March 6, 2015
    Answer this Chazz Asks below: Would you date someone that was behind on their child support payments?
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    Would you date someone with 5 Kids?
    March 6, 2015
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    Man Awarded $9.1 million After Wrongful Conviction, Prison Rape and Contracting HIV
    March 9, 2015
    Kirk Odom was recently awarded 9.1 Million dollars in a wrongful conviction lawsuit.  Mr. Odom was sentenced to 22 years in prison after being wrongfully convicted of rape.  During that, time he was raped multiple times resulting in him contracting HIV.  To make matters worse the prosecutors caught, charged, and convicted the actual perpetrators of the crime and failed to release Mr. Odom from prison.  After 20 years in prison and a case review he was exonerated and released from prison.  Now, 10 years after his release from prison he has been awarded 9.1 Million dollars, a sum many local attorneys feel is to much.  To much for what? To Much for spending 20 years and the prime of his life in prison.  To much for missing out on his child's life (she was born only weeks before his imprisonment)? To much for the fact that his family ceased contact with him many years ago? To much for the fact that he contracted HIV and has been haunted with the possibility of death for years.  In fact, by failing to release this man from prison when they first realized that another man did it they gave this man a death penalty one that can't be reversed.  Mr. Odom, enjoy your 9.1 million dollars and live your life to the fullest. http://financialjuneteenth.com/man-awarded-9-1-million-after-wrongful-conviction-prison-rape-and-contracting-hiv/
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    When you find out your girlfriend is cheating through your kids...
    March 9, 2015
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    March 9, 2015
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    Shots Fired at Lil Wayne's House, now surrounded by police
    March 11, 2015
    Lil Wayne's Miami beach home is surrounded by police after a report of shots fired. Police did not feel comfortable entering the home following a call alleging that 4 people may have been injured. Wayne is okay. Wasn't home during alleged events.— Young Money (@YoungMoneySite) March 11, 2015 Everybody good on our side...thanks for the concern— Mack Maine (@mackmaine) March 11, 2015 For more information visit: http://www.msn.com/en-us/music/news/lil-wayne%e2%80%99s-miami-beach-home-surrounded-by-police-after-report-of-shots-fired/ar-AA9EfjN?ocid=DELLDHP
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    March 11, 2015
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    Would you rather date a person with looks and no personality or a person with bad looks and a lot of money?
    March 12, 2015
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    March 12, 2015
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    What is the Best Love Song Ever Made
    March 13, 2015
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    March 13, 2015
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    Minister Creflo Dollar Requests 65 million for Private Luxury Jet
    March 13, 2015
    Minister Creflo Dollar has requested $65 Million for a private luxury jet. He is requesting $300 from 200,000 people. This request has sparked a great deal of public outrage. What do you think? Read More: http://www.christianpost.com/news/creflo-dollar-now-flying-commercial-says-ministry-but-he-still-needs-that-65m-luxury-plane-to-carry-food-and-people-135650/
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    Mom purchases bananas infested with spiders that cause hours long erections
    March 13, 2015
    A British couple recently purchased bananas that they claim were infested with Brazilian Wandering Spiders. These spiders bites are known for causing hours long erections and even death. http://www.buzzfeed.com/javiermoreno/this-woman-ordered-a-dress-online-and-her-experience-is-all?fb_action_ids=934004886631539&fb_action_types=og.comments#.gqap0E3PO
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    What's the Biggest Lie that You Have Ever Been Told in a Relationship
    March 15, 2015
    Answer this Chazz Asks below: What's the biggest lie that you have ever been told in a relationship?
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    March 16, 2015
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    March 17, 2015
    Have you ever dated two people at the same time?
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    March 19, 2015
    Have you ever gotten revenge after a breakup?
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    March 19, 2015
    Do you think it's ok to call or text your partners friends?
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    March 19, 2015
    What would you do if your partner's ex was trying to get them back?
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    Do you think music has gotten worse over the years?
    March 19, 2015
    Do you think music has gotten worse over the years?
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    What was the best R&B group of the 90's?
    March 19, 2015
    What was the best R&B group of the 90's?
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    What's your favorite show on T.V. right now?
    March 19, 2015
    What's your favorite show on T.V. right now?
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    Man charged with 142 Felony counts after cop sees instagram
    March 19, 2015
    Dupree Johnson was charged 142 felony counts after a police officer saw his instagram page. He already had multiple theft and burglary charges and then officers stumbled upon his instagram. Officers executed a search warrant on his home and found $250,000 worth of stolen goods including electronics, jewelry, and fire arms. When asked during booking for his occupation he allegedly replied, thief. For more visit: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/12/11/dupree-johnson_n_4427156.html
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    Woman with prosthetic gets heartless reply from neighbor
    March 20, 2015
    Ashley Brady, 26, recently lost a leg to an accident. She was trying to adjust to her new prosthetic leg so she requested a handicap parking space closer to her apartment. Not even a week after she got the spot a neighbor started parking in it and did not have a handicap placard. Ms. Brady said that she wrote a note to the neighbor asking that they stop parking in her spot and she was shocked by the response she received. "Hey handicapped! First, never place your hands on my car again! Second, honey, you ain't the only one with 'struggles.' I let the office know the cry baby one-leg touches my property I will cause trouble. So go cry your struggles to someone who cares cause (sic) I'm walking away with both mine!" MyFoxAL.com - FOX6 WBRC Birmingham, AL Read More: http://www.myfoxal.com/story/28564130/neighbor-leaves-mean-reply-to-woman-with-prosthetic?clienttype=generic
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    Man's Girlfriend and Ex-Girlfriend jump in freezing water to see who he saves first
    March 20, 2015
    A man in China recently arranged a meeting between him, his ex, and his girlfriend. He said that they had both been complaining and groaning to him regularly and he was tired of hearing it. So, he arranged a meeting so they could all hash it out. However when they met they started arguing and the ex-girlfriend got offended by something the girlfriend said and jumped into a freezing river and started hollering for him to save her. However, before he could respond his currently girlfriend jumped in and started begging him to save her. Left with this decision to make regarding who to save, he jumped in to the rescue of his girlfriend and while on the way to the hospital called his brother to try to save his ex.
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    March 25, 2015
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    He woke up like this
    March 25, 2015
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    Three Policemen Brutally Attack Michigan Man Without Reason
    March 30, 2015
    On January 28, Floyd Dent was charged with multiple crimes including resisting arrest, assault and possession of cocaine he was then arrested in Inkster, Michigan. He had no criminal history and the charges appeared odd considering Dent had worked at Ford for 37 years. A video of the arrest of Dent shows an image that is a lot more disturbing. It shows Dent being hauled from his car, put in a chokehold and hit 16 times in the head. Dent was likewise Tasered three times. Here is a video of the incident: Read More: http://anonhq.com/three-policemen-brutally-attack-michigan-man-without-reason/
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    Laurence Fishburne's Mother Claims She's Facing Eviction because He Cut Her Off
    April 1, 2015
    According to CentricTV.com, actor Laurence Fishburne's 80-year-old mother claims the star has completely cut her off financially and she's now facing eviction. Hattie Crawford Fishburne tells the New York Post she has not been able to pay her rent for several months and is at risk of being evicted from her LA apartment on March 31. She says she's been trying to get in contact Laurence Fishburne, but hasn't spoken to him since his father died over a year ago. "He's gone Hollywood," Hattie told the publication. "For 20 years, I funded my son's career. He promised me he would take care of me. He promised me a house, a golden retriever, a calico cat. To this day, I have not got a Christmas present or a 'Thank you, Mama' present. He hasn't given me a penny." Read More: http://www.centrictv.com/entertainment/celebrity-news/articles/2015/03/30/laurence-fishburne-s-mother-claims-she-s-facing-eviction-because-actor-cut-her-off.html
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    April 3, 2015
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    April 3, 2015
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    April 3, 2015
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    April 3, 2015
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    April 3, 2015
    Would you ever shoot a home pn movie with your partner?
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    April 3, 2015
    Should a woman propose to a man?
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    Would you date someone that lived in a really dirty house?
    April 9, 2015
    Would you date someone that lived in a really dirty house?
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    April 13, 2015
    Would you keep dating someone if the sex was bad?
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    April 15, 2015
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    7 Ways to Move on from Friends with Benefits (FWB) to Girlfriend
    December 20, 2016
    Friends With Benefits (FWB): How to move on from friend with benefits (FWB) to girlfriend. Are you a Friend with Benefits (FWB)? Do you want to leave behind your friends with benefits (FWB) status. Do you want him to take you from friends with benefits (FWB) and upgrade you to girlfriend. Here is how not to be a friend with benefits (FWB). There are 7 steps you can take to move on from friends with benefits (FWB) to girlfriend. Many women are dissatisfied with their status as friends with benefits (FWB) and would like to be his girlfriend. This Video will tell you about how to upgrade your status from friend with benefits (FWB) to girlfriend and leave behind your friend with benefits (FWB) day. Good by friend with benefits status.  
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    10 Ways to know a Man is Full of Shit
    December 20, 2016
    Do you want to know if your man is full of shit. I get questions all the time from women who want to know if their man is full of shit. They want to know if their man is playing games. Do you feel like your relationship isn't moving forward in the way that you want to? Does your man seem like he is being secretive and this is making you feel like he may not be serious and is full of shit. Are you suspecting that he is playing games. This askchazzellis exposing game video will tell you 10 ways to know that your man is full of shit and is playing games. Some of these ways to know that your man is full of shit will probably surprise you.  
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    How to know if your man is falling in love with you
    December 20, 2016
    Do you feel like you know your falling in love with your man? Do you want to know if your man is in love with you. This video will tell you how to know if a guy loves you and how to know if he is falling in love with you.  
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    What to do if your girlfriend has been faking it in bed
    December 21, 2016
    What to do if your girlfriend has been faking it in bed. Guy asks what to do about his girlfriend faking it in bed. His girlfriend told him that she has never really had an orgasm and she has been faking them all along. Some women fake it in bed. It is normally to her detriment not yours if she is faking it in bed. Sometimes women actually lie and say that they are faking it in bed. The fact that she tells you she has been faking it is even more concerning. This video explains why she might be telling you that she is faking it in bed.  
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    Why do guys stop talking to girls when things get serious?
    December 21, 2016
    What things cause guys to pull back and makes guys pull back. Why do guys always stop talking to girls when things get serious. There are two reasons reasons why guys pull back. Watch this video to learn the two reasons why guys pull back and stop talking to girls when things get serious. There are reasons why guys talk to girls that they are not interested in having a serious relationship with. There are also things that women sometimes do that make men who were interested pull back.  
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    How do I win back my ex
    December 21, 2016
    How i win my ex back. How to get my ex back. What can I do to get back with an Ex. I want to get back with my boyfriend or girlfriend. I got a question from someone asking how can you get an ex back when they are already with someone else and how do you know whether they love the rebound or if it is just to make you jealous. How do you know whether to give up and move on. Most people tell you to just move on. However, if you don't feel like you are done with the situation it just makes it harder for you to move on. You have to have some sort of closure in your own mind. You have to feel like you did whatever you could before you are ready to take alot of the steps to feel like you are done with that person. Watch this AskChazzEllis video to learn more about trying to win back an ex.  
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    Stop Being Mad at People Because They Don't Care
    December 22, 2016
    Does it make sense to hold a grudge? This AskChazzEllis video is about why holding a grudge doesn't make sense. I am letting people know what holding a grudge really does to your life. You need to stop being mad at people because they don't care. In this video I talk about a guy who I know who was holding a grudge against another guy for getting with his girl. I explain why holding the grudge and being angry is only affecting you and the people who are close to you and actually care about you. They are still living their lives and being happy while you walk around angry and bitter wasting your time and happiness. You are making yourself someone that people don't want to be around.  
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    7 signs that you are a rebound pt2 ( reconnecting with an ex )
    December 22, 2016
    Rebound Relationships. How to know you are a rebound. What to do if you are a rebound. This is part two of 7 signs that you are a rebound. This video is answering the many questions that I have gotten about how to reconnect with someone after being a rebound. Alot of people are trying to reconnect with someone that they feel had them in a rebound situation. There is alot of danger in trying to accomplish this however, I am going to show you how to best go about reconnecting with an ex who had you in a rebound situation.  
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    Women Have to Take Responsibility for Themselves
    December 22, 2016
    Advice for women who are tired of being used. I receive a lot of questions from women complaining that men are using them. They ask me why do men hurt women. Why do men do this or that. This video is about the fact that you have to take responsibility for yourself. You may have the feeling that people are out to get you but most people aren't. This AskChazzEllis video is about the fact that you have to take responsibility for yourself. Taking responsibility for yourself will help you stop making the same mistakes. You keep doing the same thing you are going to get the same result. You have to take responsibility for yourself and your actions. This video explains why you shouldn't feel used and what you can do to rectify the situation.  
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    Women's 3 Biggest Dating Mistakes
    December 22, 2016
    Dating Mistakes. Biggest dating mistakes. Outlining some of the biggest mistakes women make while dating. There are 3 mistakes in dating that women routinely make. Watch this video to find out what the three mistakes that women routinely make are so that you can avoid these mistakes. This will help you keeping a guy from losing interest in you or changing the category that he has put you in. Avoid making these mistakes in dating, watch this video.  
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    How to Know When Someone Is Playing Games
    December 27, 2016
    Have you ever wondered if a guy is a player and is playing games with you. Yes, girls play games too. Do you wonder why girls are playing games with you. This is an askchazzellis exposing game video telling you how to tell if someone is playing games with you. Talking about why people play these games. Do you wonder why you are getting mixed signals from a man or woman? It talks about that too. There are a variety of signs that men and women are playing these games. Want to know what the signs of someone playing games are? Watch to find out what they are and then figure out what you can do about someone playing games with you. Put a stop to all of the game playing!  
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    What Makes a Woman Wife Material
    December 27, 2016
    I'm telling women how to be wife material. Make him want to marry you. What makes a man want to marry you. Is she wife material. Every woman is wife material to someone. However, every woman is not wife material to every man. Watch this video to understand what makes a man consider you wife material and want to marry you.  
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    Top Mistakes that Get a Woman Dumped in the First 90 Days
    December 28, 2016
    Back to VideosThis is an askchazzellis single woman video letting women know about some of the common mistake that cause men to breakup them within the first 90 days of a relationship. This is the time that people decide whether they really like you and if they want to leave the situation. Do you want to know if doing it to early will get you dumped. Do you want to know if waiting to do it will cause him to breakup with you. Does the 90 day rule factor in to getting dumped. Should you ask where you stand in the relationship so that you know if he is likely to breakup with you . Here are the Top Mistakes that Get Women dumped in the first 90 days.  
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    The 5 Categories That Men Place Women In
    December 28, 2016
    Have you ever wondered if men classify women. Do they put women in categories. Yes, men put women in categories and this video talks about what categories there are. Do you want to know what category you are in. I also talk about what you can do about what category the man has put you in if that isn't the category you want to be in. This is letting you know how men classify women and why. There are 5 categories men put women in. This is an askchazzellis understanding men videos that outlines all 5 of the categories men put women in.  
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    How to Get a Guy to Commit
    December 28, 2016
    Back to VideosI often get the question from ladies wondering how to get a guy to commit to you. This will help you get a man who actually likes you to commit to you. This is an askchazzellis video telling women how to get their men to commit to a long term relationship. Tags: How to Get a guy to commit to you. Get him to commit to you. Make him commit to you.  
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    Men just love differently from women
    December 28, 2016
    This is an askchazzellis video telling people some of the ways that men and women show love differently and why this causes a problem in many relationships. Chazz Ellis uses comedy to give people information about how to please their significant other and how to be pleased in return.  
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    9 Signs Your Man is Cheating On You and What to Do About it
    December 28, 2016
    This video is going to give you the downlow on how to know if your man is cheating on you. Some of the fellas might be a little mad that I am exposing these signs that your man is cheating on you. This is an askchazzellis understanding men video that explains the signs that a woman should watch for to let her know that a man is cheating on her. Some of these are going to be less obvious ways to know. If you really want to figure out if your man is cheating this is the video. I also talk about what you can do if your boyfriend is cheating and how you can figure out why he is cheating and whether this is a cry for help or if he is just done.  
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    Why Does My Ex Keep Coming Back to Me
    December 28, 2016
    Back to VideosThis is an askchazzellis video letting women know what makes men keep coming back to them after a break up. Women often ask me why does their ex keep coming back to them. This video explains why it is that guys keep coming back even though you broke up. Tags: Why does my ex keep coming back to me? Why won't my ex go away? Why does my ex keep contacting me.  
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    How long does it take for a man to put a woman in a category?
    December 28, 2016
    Have you ever wondered how men classify women and how long does it take for a man to put a woman in a category? Watch the 5 categories men place women in to learn what the categories are. This video will go into greater detail to help you understand how long it will take for a man to put a woman in a category. This askchazzellis video tells women how long it takes for a man to decide what he thinks about them and what his plans are for his future with her, if there is one at all.  
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    5 secret ways to keep your man happy
    December 28, 2016
    Do you want to know how you can keep your man happy? Do you love your boyfriend or husband and want him to stay happy being with you and satisfied with your relationship? You can keep him happy, interested, and loyal. This is an askchazzellis understanding men video letting women know about 5 secret ways to keep their men happy in a relationship. These aren't going to be the common ways to keep a man happy that they speak of. This video will provide you the keys to your man's heart and how to make your man not be able to live without you.  
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    Should I stop dating black people
    December 28, 2016
    A question I often get is should I stop dating black people. I mostly get this question from black people. People often think they will get a different result if they date someone of a different race. As I often say racism is a handicap whether it is you being racist towards other people or whether it is you being racist towards yourself. This is because it causes you to expect certain things out of a person because of their race when the reality is you cannot expect anything out of a person because of their race. Watch this AskChazzEllis Video to learn whether I think you should stop dating black people.  
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    Why Guys Don't Commit to Women
    December 29, 2016
    Back to VideosToday, I got a really good question asking why is it that guys are not willing to commit. I will give you the three top reasons that guys are not willing to commit. By understanding why guys don't commit you can understand what will make a guy more likely to commit. Watch this video to understand why men are so reluctant to commit to one woman. Tags: Why guys don't commit. How to get a guy to commit. Getting a man to commit.  
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    Why Do Guys Just Walk Away
    December 30, 2016
    A lot of ladies ask me why a guy just walked away. They want to know why someone just walked out of their life. They have people giving them different answers as to why he walked out of thier life but they want to understand what is going on. Sometimes these people walk in and out of their lives over and over again and they are really trying to figure out what is the deal. When a guy just walks out of your life it is normally for one of two reasons. Watch this AskChazzEllis video to understand what the reasons are that a guy would just walk out of your life. Tags: Why do guys just walk away. Why do men walk away. Why men walk away. Why guys walk away.  
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    5 Signs That He Just Wants Sex
    January 4, 2017
    Signs he just wants sex. How to know he just wants to hook up.. Signs he just wants to hook up. Signs he just wants to smash... A lot of women ask me how do I know if all this guy wants is sex. How do I know if he just wants to smash or if he is really serious about me. Here are 5 signs that will give you an idea of whether a guy may really want to give you a relationship or just wants sex.  
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    Top Dating Mistakes - Saying you don't need a man
    January 25, 2017
    Back to VideosA lot of ladies ask me what are the biggest mistakes that women make when entering into a relationship and one of the biggest mistakes that I see women make is saying that they don't need a man. This AskChazzEllis video will explain why it is not a good idea when entering a relationship to say that you don't need a man. Tags: Dating Mistakes. Top Dating Mistakes. Biggest Dating Mistakes. Stop saying you don't need a man...  
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    How to Bounce Back From a Breakup
    January 29, 2017
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    Women Stop Lying to Yourself
    February 6, 2017
    Back to VideosThis is an askchazzellis video telling women to stop lying to themselves and be honest about what men are really telling them. This is giving women the information that the need to read between the lines and know what a guy really wants from them. Tags: Stop Lying to Yourself. Don't Lie to yourself.  
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    How to Know When Someone is Playing Games Part 2 (Turning the Tables)
    February 6, 2017
    Back to VideosThis is an askchazzellis video based on a very popular video called How To Know Someone is Playing Games. I made part 2 because several people asked me how to turn the tables on someone and stop getting played and in this video I tell you exactly how to do that. Tags: Is he playing games. how to know if someone is playing games. How to know when someone is playing games.  
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    How to improve your self esteem
    February 6, 2017
    Back to VideosThis is an askchazzellis video telling people about the many aspects of having good self-esteem and how to improve yours. There are several simple techniques that you can use to improve your self esteem. There are 4 pillars of self esteem and they will tell us how we feel about ourself and why we feel that way. Watch this AskChazzEllis video to learn how you can boost your self esteem. Tags: How to Improve your Self Esteem. How to increase your self esteem. Ways to Boost Your Self Esteem...  
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    Why women should wait until they are in a relationship
    February 6, 2017
    Back to VideosThis is an askchazzellis video telling women why they should wait until they are in a relationship to get physical with a guy. I break down the way guys see things and tell why some women find themselves getting dumped after things get physical. Tags: How long should you wait to have sex with someone. Why women should wait until they are in a relationship. Should I wait to have sex.  
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    Things Men Test Women For: How to Pass a Mans Test
    February 7, 2017
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    Things Men Test Women For: How to Recover from Failing a Man's Test
    February 7, 2017
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    24 Hour Sale
    May 19, 2017
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    How to Stop the Game (101) Understanding Why People Play Games
    June 9, 2017
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    Why You Don't Recognize Game
    July 20, 2017
    They say that game recognizes game but I think that only happens when you keep it real with yourself. Whenever you talk about game or people playing games, the average person takes this as an opportunity to get high and mighty and claim that they don’t playing any games and never have. Most people like to say that anyone who is still playing games is immature and may even have some kind of mental condition. I think that most people take this stance because they can’t really see how other people view them and their actions. "They say that game recognizes game but that only happens when you keep it real with yourself." Chazz Ellis People do things to protect themselves and gain control in their lives. Most people see their actions as just getting by but those negatively affected by their actions would call what they are doing playing games. I say that we all play games and it’s really just a matter of perspective. When we judge our own actions, we generally judge them based on how they have affected our lives. We decide whether or not we are better off due to the choice that we made or worse off. When we judge the actions of other people we usually take into account how their actions affected us and maybe as an afterthought, we think of how their actions affected them as they relate to us. Basically, we feel like someone messed up just because their actions caused us to no longer communicate with them not taking into account that they may be communicating with someone else that they like better as a result of those actions. When we think about game, we think about what has been done to us and not what we have done to others. If you ask a man which sex plays the most games, he will generally say women and if you ask a woman, she will generally say men. This is because most people don’t see their actions as playing games no matter how they affect others but they see the actions of others in a completely different way. This happens because we view our own actions through the lens of our intent but we don’t have that same luxury with other people. A mirror shows you how you see yourself, not how the world sees you. When we look at ourselves, we see all of our good intentions and everything that happened to bring us to this point but when we see others, we only see how their most recent action has impacted our lives. So, what does this have to do with getting played? The answer is everything. The reason that most of us keep getting played is that we just can’t see that others feel that we have played them. We just can’t see how our attempts to preserve ourselves have been viewed by others as playing games. When we aren’t ready to commit to someone, we give a whole laundry list of reasons and decide that they should just accept them but when they are not ready to commit, they are players or childish people that need to grow up. We have the right to not be attracted to someone but when someone that we like isn’t attracted to us they have to have some deficiency or issue that blinds them to our greatness and beauty. We usually can’t recognize game in others because we refuse to recognize it in ourselves. If we could be honest about who we are to others and how all of the people that we dealt with in the past may truly see us then we could start to see the root cause of game and that would give us the ability to see the games coming. A great actor has to put himself inside the mind of the character, without judgement, in order to create a believable performance. This is because the actor can’t really give an honest portrail of the character unless he really knows what the character would do in a given situation. The audience has to feel that the character is motivated and on a mission to achieve a goal. The actor can’t create this unless he understands the character enough to know what his mission is and why. The reality is that you will always get played if you can’t understand why people are playing you in the first place. You can’t protect yourself when you don’t know why people choose to do what they do. A great fighter asks herself what she would do if she were her opponent and that is how she mounts her defense. If you just can’t admit that you are willing to strike then you will never be able to defend yourself against any a danger. How to Stop the Game Masterclass101: Understanding Why People Play GamesA lot of people want to know how to stop game, how to stop being played and to see when others may potentially try to play them. Unfortunately this can be very difficult to do when they don’t really understand why people play games in the first place. Not understanding the reason for a person’s actions means that you can only react emotionally to them however, one cannot make a sound plan from emotion. This video will show where game comes from and the reasons why people play. You will learn how to spot patterns and see similarities before the games begin. This video will set the groundwork for stopping the game altogether. Get this video102: Identifying GameMany people constantly find themselves in the same situations over and over again not knowing how to respond. When you can't identify game, you are simply forced to interpret whatever someone is doing as a true representation of how they feel. You are not in control because they are the ones creating the reality while you simply react to it. When you can't identify specific games, you simply can't execute a plan no matter how hard you try. This premium video will show you how to spot specific games and quickly understand the difference between genuine lack of interest and methods being employed to gain a specific response. Get this video103: How and When to Take ActionWhen dealing with those who play games, the first impulse is to act out of emotion and do something to make yourself feel better in the moment. Many times, very little thought goes into these actions and they are soon followed by regret. This premium video will tell you how to act and more importantly when to act in order to get the maximum results and avoid dealing with regret. Get this video104: After You Mess UpOf course it is easier to stop the game when you have created a plan before hand and haven't made any mistakes however, we are all human and of course we will mess up. This premium video shows you what to do after you mess up. This video will show you how to get back on track and avoid making the same mistakes over and over again. 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    You Can't Get Respect if You Won't Walk Away
    August 1, 2017
    The truth is that people will only respect you as much as they believe that you respect yourself. When you don’t seem to respect yourself enough to walk away from a bad situation then you can’t expect the other person to respect you enough to treat you better. The reality is that people want to be with someone that actually wants to be with them, not someone that stays simply because they are afraid to leave. The only power that any union really has is the willingness to send the workers out on strike. People have to be willing to do without out some of the things that they want and need in order to achieve the ultimate goal in the long run. People have to even be willing to lose what they currently have in order to get what they really want. "People will only respect you as much as they believe that you respect yourself." Chazz Ellis This is why the no contact method was created. The no contact method is basically when you cut off all ties with someone because they are unwilling or unable to give you what you want in a relationship. I know that this may seem a bit drastic but it is necessary sometimes. Let’s be real, some people just don’t get the message until they see you walk away. Now, the difference between the no contact method and simply giving up on the relationship is the temporary nature of the former. When you initiate the no contact method, it isn’t to end the relationship but to allow it to undergo a metamorphosis into something new. Of course using the no contact method can be scary because walking away (albeit temporarily) is a risk. Your partner may not want to change and may actually even decide that they are better off without you. The truth is that there are no guarantees in life and everything boils down to risk and reward. The best thing to do before employing the no contact method is to ask yourself if you would rather be alone than to continue on in your relationship’s current state. If the answer is yes, then the no contact method is for you but if you are unsure then that generally means that you aren’t going to stick to the no contact method so it won’t work anyway. The thing about the no contact method is that it is a marathon and not a sprint. This means that you have to have some real resolve to use it. You probably aren’t going to get results right away so you have to really have your mind made up and your heels dug in for it to work. The thing that you have to remember is that every time you start the no contact method and break it, you weaken you position and make it less likely for them to believe that you will every walk away. The no contact method can save a relationship by letting the other person see that they can lose you and also allowing them to see what it would be like if they did. You have to see the no contact method as an act of kindness or it won’t work. You truly have to believe that you are enough and showing the other person that you will walk away is helping both of you. This means that you don’t need to be vindictive or try to set them up to fail when you are gone. You have to believe that you are what is best for them and they will see that through the no contact method otherwise you will simply do things that let them know that they are better off without you after all. Perfecting the No-Contact Method Masterclass101: Getting StartedWhen you are not getting what you want from a relationship, sometimes the only thing left to do is to completely cut off contact. This may be the only way to send a message to the other person that you are serious about what you want and will tolerate anything less. Unfortunately, many people are not successful at using the no contact method because they haven’t planned ahead and have created no real strategy to carry out it out. This premium video will show you how to use the strategy called pre-nocontact that will help you prepare yourself for the difficulties that will surely come when you employ no contact. Using pre-nocontact to get started will make you much more likely to be successful. Get this video102: MaintainingOnce you are in the no contact method, you are going to go through several ups and downs and you must have a strategy to carry you through and help you to maintain. You will probably get a bit discouraged and feel that the no contact method isn’t working. This premium video will show you how to employ tactics that will help you to deal with some of the pitfalls that generally cause one to abandon the no contact method. You can use these methods even if you did not use the pre-nocontact method and you have already run into some issues because of it. Get this video103: Getting What You Want or Letting GoA lot of people use the no contact method but have no idea what to do next. The other person is either going to give you what you want or not. The issue that most people run into is what to do after a conclusion has been reached. If you don’t get what you want, are you going to stay or go? If you do get what you want, then what next? These are questions that will come up when the no contact method is complete but then it will be a little too late to know what to do with the answers. Unfortunately, life doesn’t always give us a chance to stop and work out all of the details on the spot. This premium video will show you what to expect from the no contact method and give you a solid plan for what to do next in case of several different outcomes. Get this videoBuy!Buy!Buy!Chazz Ellis FacebookYouTubeTwitter
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    Perfecting the No-Contact Method Master Class
    August 1, 2017
    When you are not getting what you want from a relationship, sometimes the only thing left to do is to completely cut off contact. This may be the only way to send a message to the other person that you are serious about what you want and will tolerate anything less. Unfortunately, many people are not successful at using the no contact method because they haven’t planned ahead and have created no real strategy to carry out it out. This premium video will show you how to use the strategy called pre-nocontact that will help you prepare yourself for the difficulties that will surely come when you employ no contact. Using pre-nocontact to get started will make you much more likely to be successful. Buy!Once you are in the no contact method, you are going to go through several ups and downs and you must have a strategy to carry you through and help you to maintain. You will probably get a bit discouraged and feel that the no contact method isn’t working. This premium video will show you how to employ tactics that will help you to deal with some of the pitfalls that generally cause one to abandon the no contact method. You can use these methods even if you did not use the pre-nocontact method and you have already run into some issues because of it. Buy!A lot of people use the no contact method but have no idea what to do next. The other person is either going to give you what you want or not. The issue that most people run into is what to do after a conclusion has been reached. If you don’t get what you want, are you going to stay or go? If you do get what you want, then what next? These are questions that will come up when the no contact method is complete but then it will be a little too late to know what to do with the answers. Unfortunately, life doesn’t always give us a chance to stop and work out all of the details on the spot. This premium video will show you what to expect from the no contact method and give you a solid plan for what to do next in case of several different outcomes. Buy!
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    The greatest feeling in the world is having the power of choice
    August 7, 2017
    We all want someone to value us enough to feel that we are worth chasing or at least feel that we are worth treating well enough so that they don’t end up having to chase us. The greatest feeling in the world is having the power of choice and having someone chase us gives us just that.
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    5 Reasons Why T.I. and Tiny Should Stay Together
    August 14, 2017
    While watching a video of T.I. and Tiny’s Caribbean vacation, I decided to take my obligatory glance through the comment section. Although I wasn’t surprised at the negative comments and the don’t take him back girl rhetoric, I was thrown off by the fact that it really seemed that no one saw any value in what T.I. and Tiny had. How is it that people could tell someone to just throw away more than a decade of extremely fruitful partnership? This led me to think that people may not being thinking realistically about their relationship so I decided to give people five good reason for T.I. and Tiny to stay together. 1. The Kids: I guess I should make the first reason the most obvious one so that we can get it out of the way; they have a bunch of kids. Now, I know that some of you are saying that they only have three children together but if you have ever been a part of a blended family then you know that they are both attached to one another’s children and of course the kids are attached to each other. T.I. and Tiny seem to work together as a very good team and inserting anyone else into the mix would certainly throw off the chemistry and make co-parenting more difficult for all parties involved. Basically if it ain’t broke don’t fix it and regardless of the relationship struggles, the kids seem to be thriving. 2. Lightening Doesn't Strike Twice: T.I. and Tiny have an obvious chemistry that the best actors couldn’t fake on screen. They can finish each other’s sentences and their personalities really mesh well. The two of them really bring out the best in each other and that is obvious in all of their interviews and moments on the show. T.I. needs someone sweet like Tiny to make his gruff street edge palatable to corporate America and Tiny needs T.I. to help keep her from being pushed around and often missing her own value in terms of business. The chances are that neither of them will every find someone that complements them in the same way. The truth is that once you find a great match, everyone else will be compared to them and generally be found lacking. 3. The Grass Isn't Greener: Okay, so people say that T.I. cheated and Tiny hung out with one of his rivals, so what. The truth is that anybody that you decide to be with is going to have issues and they are probably going to cheat or betray you in some way. Here’s what they won’t do, take you children in as their own, help you accomplish your goals, and support you for over a decade. People are always trying to shoot holes in someone else’s situation by pointing out the negatives. Well, news flash, everything has a negative aspect but that doesn’t mean that you just throw it away. If T.I. and Tiny called it quits, they are ultimately choosing to be alone. They may both find other people and I’m sure that it will work out for a while but eventually they will be hit with the inevitable and that is the fact that everything comes with a catch. Once you found someone that truly makes you happy, the reality is that it is all downhill from there. You may find someone who is completely faithful but doesn’t get you or your kids. You may find someone that doesn’t nag or expect much but they also won’t be with you when you fall. Relationships have their ebbs and flows so if you can find someone that gets you it is best to ride it out with them because perfection is only temporary. 4. The Empire: I don’t care who T.I. or Tiny decides to be with, they aren’t building what they have with anyone else. What T.I. and Tiny have built is based on the two of them working as a team and even if they think they can do it alone, they can’t. People like seeing them together even if they don’t know it. The same people telling Tiny to leave T.I. for good didn’t care about her a few years ago and won’t care about her when the controversy is over. T.I. fans may feel like the rapper is just fine without Tiny but they don’t know how much being a family man has helped T.I. avoid being lost in time like most other aging rappers. If and when T.I. and Tiny split, they will both see a huge reduction in popularity. Marriage is also a business arrangement, and when you have a good business partner, you don’t let them go. 5. The Beach Party Ends: The truth is that one day T.I. and Tiny won’t be famous anymore and no one will give a crap about either of them. Time marches on and one day it will leave you behind and that is true no matter who you are. Of course when you’re young and have your whole life in front of you it’s cute to throw things away but when you get old, you are left with nothing but regrets. The truth is that we make decision thinking that everything is replaceable and that there is always an upgrade waiting around the next corner and the truth is that there generally isn’t. Some people say that it’s okay to be alone and that is true if you never had anyone worth being with but once you have had the love of your life then you will always long for that feeling again. People who are telling Tiny to just move on are people who haven’t been with someone who is worth fighting for and those telling T.I. that he can get a badder chick haven’t been with a woman that makes you a better man. We all fall down but don’t let miserable ass people make you feel ashamed to get back up. How to Resuscitate a Dying RelationshipA lot of people are currently in relationships that they feel are slipping away. For some reason things have changed and it has become difficult to find common ground with their partners. Most people would say that this is the time to walk away but what do you do if the love is still there? Do you really want to abandon genuine love because you are having problem? The real issue is that most people don’t know how to save their relationships or even where to begin. This premium video will give you the tools to evaluate why you are staying, what is really wrong in the relationship, and what to do going forward. Get this videoGet this!Chazz Ellis FacebookYouTubeTwitter
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    5 Reasons Not to Get Advice From a Guy Friend
    August 16, 2017
    A lot of women have male friends that they like to get advice from. They generally want a guy’s perspective on their relationship issues and figure that their male friends are the best people to keep it real with them. Before you ask your male friend for relationship advice, there are a few things you make want to consider. He Wants YouLet’s be real, many times your male friend is only a friend because you won’t let him smash. For whatever reason, he is not really your type and you don’t want to go any further than friendship. Male friends generally accept this on the surface but have a boiling longing and resentment somewhere deep down. Think about how insulting it is to ask the guy that you don’t want what you should do with a guy that you feel is worthy of a relationship. Asking a male friend for advice is really a slap in the face and this is why their advice really can’t be trusted. Male friends don’t want to tell you how to get the other guy to act right, they feel that you should just be with them so you would have a guy that acts right. Things ChangeEven though you may not see yourself with any of your male friends at this point in your life, things do change. If you do decide that you want to be with a male friend in the future, it would help your case if you haven’t received relationship advice from him in the past. When you ask a guy for advice, you have to tell the whole truth in order for the advice to be helpful, so that means that you are telling your future boyfriend about everything that you did wrong in your last relationship. Even if you choose to keep it one sided and make the other person look bad, that simply makes you look gullible and causes the male friend to feel that you would take the same crap from him if you really liked him. In a lot of cases, what you are doing is making the male friend feel like he is a second choice when you raise the standards for him after he has witnessed everything that you put up with in your previous relationships. Not Your TypeThe fact is that your male friend probably isn’t your type or he would be your boyfriend. Since he isn’t your type, he can’t really tell you how to deal with your type. You want the guy that actually gets the girl and you are asking for advice from the guy that ends up in the friend zone. Your male friend may tell you what he would do if he had someone like you but you have to ask yourself if he would ever get someone like you. Male friends may mean well but often times they just don’t know how to deal with a guy that has options because they don’t really know what it is like to have options. To get a top notched guy, you probably want to get advice from someone like him not someone that is secretly jealous of him. PlayersSome male friends may be your type but they are also players. They may actually mean well and be trying to keep it real but they are also judging everyone based on who they are. You may be dealing with a shy sincere guy but your male friend, being a player, just assumes that the guy is just like him. When your male friend is a player, he is often going to see everyone else as being a player and give you advice that would attract a player like him but chase away a guy that was actually trying to be with you. Some players don’t mean well and being your friend is actually a tool to get the drawls without having to make a commitment. They will give you advice that purposely sabotage your relationship so that they can get rebound sex at a later date then go back to being best buddies again. Wants the HookupMany times giving a woman good advice can cause a guy to find himself being judged. As he tries to explain why a guy may take a certain course of action, he may find himself being lumped in with that person and virtually convicted for his crimes. Male friends often want to hook up with some of your friends and giving you certain advice or disagreeing with you in some way may cause you or your friends to see them in a bad light. A lot of guys just don’t feel that it is worth it to start an argument and possibly lose themselves opportunities for future hookups. Some guys see anything that your partner or any guy for that matter does as an opportunity for them to stick their chest out. When a guy doesn’t call or argues with you, they will see this as an opportunity to throw the other guy under the bus so that they can look like the better man all in the hopes of smashing one of your homies in the future. Most guys mean no real harm by doing this and your relationship is really just collateral damage in the endless quest for the drawls. Now, I’m not saying that no male friend can be trusted or relied upon but I am saying that you may want to be careful before you take your guy friends word as the gospel and act accordingly. The Art of Building and Maintaining ValueMany people struggle to build long lasting and fulfilling relationships both personally and professionally and this is generally because they lack knowledge of the art of building and maintaining value. Without this skill, a person is left hoping, wishing and even begging for the relationship that they truly want. This video stream will show you how to find out what you bring to a relationship and use that to compel the other person to willingly give you the things that you want and need. Get this videoGet this!Chazz Ellis FacebookYouTubeTwitter
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    5 ways that bashing you ex on social media is actually helping them
    August 17, 2017
    A lot of people get upset after a breakup and decide to go to social media to tell their side of the story. Some are just venting and others feel that they need to warn others. Some even feel that it is necessary to use social media to completely destroy the reputation of an ex but this blog may possibly change your mind about posting no matter what your reason is. 1. People think they’re better than you: Even if you tell everyone exactly what happened in your relationship and paint you ex in the worst light, there are going to be some people that feel that they will fare much better than you did. Most people see themselves as being special and different from everyone else around them. Just because you never win the lottery, that doesn’t mean you can convince other not to play. People are always going to feel that they will get better results than you did and that certainly extends itself to relationships. So when you talk about the other person and what they did, you will just be bringing them to the attention of others that refuse to believe that they will share your fate. 2. Ego boost: The fact that you are taking time to address your ex publicly basically tells them that you are not over them. No matter what you say, they will still walk around with their chests out knowing that you are still stuck on them and unable to truly move on. Knowing that you are still there as a home base actually gives them confidence to go out and find someone else. While you are bashing them on the internet and wasting valuable time, they are using you as motivation to go out and get someone that they really want. Basically, instead of feeling rejected and broken after the breakup, you are making them feel wanted and important. 3. Growing the Myth: The more you say that the other person did to you, the dumber you look. While you are trying to make an ex look bad, you are really making yourself look pathetic. People will wonder, what was so great about your ex that caused you to put up with all of this and still be stuck on them. People will imagine that your ex is doing magic tricks in bed no matter what you say to the contrary. People will assume that the love they give in life in general must be so good that it made you dumb enough to put up with all of this stuff then go to social media to tell everyone about it. By the time you get finished bashing your ex, people with think that he or she is a superhero. 4. Making it easy to move on: A lot of people have regret after a breakup, especially if they feel that lost a good person. When you start bashing someone on social media, you actually help them move on by showing them that you may not be as good as you seemed. The more you say about them, the more they focus on your words and forget their own actions. After a short period of time, you become the bad guy in their minds and completely negate anything that they ever did. Basically, you help them move on by giving them reason to believe that you were never really a good person in the first place. 5. Staying single: The more you talk about your ex, the less interested people become. When you keep bashing your ex on social media, the people on your page start to feel that you will never get over it and even the ones that like you lose interest. Even when you meet new people, you either have to refuse to add them to you page or let them see some of your crazy rants and put you in a different category. Sure people cheer you on and like your comments but people don’t really want to date someone who is still stuck on their ex. You will generally find yourself becoming a booty call or ending up in the friend zone. This only helps your ex because now they don’t have to think about you being with someone else. As long as you repel everyone who likes you by talking about them, your ex knows that you will be available indefinitely. SIGN UP!Chazz Ellis FacebookYouTubeTwitter
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    Everybody is Ugly to Someone... How to Understand Attraction
    August 31, 2017
    Prince once said “you don’t have to be rich to be my girl” well, you don’t have to look like Angelina Jolie to be someone else’s girl either. Most of the time when we think about attraction, we picture a bunch of physical, financial and social qualities that we don’t really have and that generally makes us feel a little depressed. If you ask a guy to think of another guy that is physically attractive, he will picture someone like George Clooney or Odell Beckham Jr. even if he himself looks more like Danny DeVito. The fact that only a very small group of people can look like movie stars or professional athletes pretty much leaves the rest of us to feel depressed on some level and even deep down not view ourselves as being attractive. If I were to ask you to name the car that you wanted most, I would bet that very few of you would say that you would like to have a Ford Focus, most of you would name some exotic car that costs hundreds of thousands or even millions of dollars. The funny thing is that if I were to pull up in front of your house with your “dream” car and a Ford Focus and ask you which one you wanted to buy, 99% of you would say that you wanted to buy the Ford Focus and that is because fantasy and reality are two different things. A fresh new lambo may seem like a great car to cruise around in while you’re dreaming but the initial cost and subsequent insurance payments would be a freaking nightmare. A lot of people couldn’t afford the gas and wouldn’t want to. When I pulled up in the fresh new sports car, most people would start thinking of all of the practical reasons why that car wouldn’t work for them like the fact that their kids and pets wouldn’t fit and the fact that they really wouldn’t see themselves driving fast enough to get anything out of such a car. When your dream becomes a reality, a lot of times that Ford Focus starts looking better and better by direct comparison. The fact of the matter is that relationships and attraction work the same way. People have some fantasies but they generally don’t stand up to direct comparisons with reality and that is why even though you may have a certain kind of person in your mind when you think of attractiveness, that is not necessarily what other people find attractive on a real level and certainly not what they are looking for. You may think that every woman wants a guy with an outgoing personality like Kevin Hart and since you are shy and reserved, you just can’t get a woman to be interested but what you may not have considered is that some women may feel that someone like Kevin Hart can’t take anything seriously. Some women may have already had bad experiences with super outgoing guys and don’t want those kinds of people anymore. Sometimes the thing that seems like a slam dunk turns out to be a missed layup. Everything is a double edged sword and that means that what is generally a good quality can also be a huge liability. When you see a tall supermodel with long beautiful legs, you may ask yourself how you can compete with someone like that when you are 5’2 and a little chubby. What you don’t realize is that those long legs make her too tall for a lot of guys and many of them may also see her as a little too skinny. The fact that she can get on the fashion runway and you can’t only means that a certain group of people in a particular industry prefer her over you but it doesn’t mean that the average guy on the street is looking for a tall thin super model over a short, curvaceous beauty. The problem that most people have is the fact that they watch movies and read a lot of magazines and that generally causes them to believe that what they see in major media is the only thing that others find attractive. A very small group of people pick the folks that we see on television and in fashion magazines and they don’t speak for the world. If you look on the internet for about an hour, you will be convinced that most of the people in the world are completely crazy but this is not true, it is simply a perception that you are getting because the crazy ones are generally the loudest. You may not see someone that looks like you on television but that is only because someone that likes your type doesn’t happen to be an executive at one of the major Hollywood studios. The reason why all of this is so important is because, most of us don’t really want to be who we are and live our lives in some denial because we don’t think that our looks, social status, personality traits or financial statuses are good enough. Most people will get upset if you call them short or fat and that is not because they aren’t short or fat but because deep down, they see those words as synonyms for the word unattractive. Most people create dating profiles that try to hide the things that they believe most people will find unattractive about them and portray an image that they can never actually live up to in person. People then start to doubt themselves because the person that seemed so interested online seems to immediately lose interest when they meet in person. Most people experience this phenomenon a few times and confirm that they are indeed ugly and decide to double down on the online fraud thinking that it must be the only way that they could have a chance. I want you to picture this for a second, what if I put an ad on the internet for a 2017 Ford Focus with an asking price of $17,000 and then when you answered that ad, I showed you a brand new 2018 Porsche priced at about $280,000? Would you see this as an upgrade and be happy that I “surprised” you? Let’s be real, of course you would be pissed because you are not in the market for a $280,000 sports car and you wanted a freaking Ford Focus. Of course you would feel like I wasted your time and that I tried to trick you into buying something that you didn’t want. Does that mean that there is something wrong with the Porsche, of course not but it does mean that it isn’t the car for you at this time in your life. The key to being attractive is to find your niche. You have to be real about who and what you are and use your qualities to market yourself to those that would value them. If you are broke and trying to stunt on Instagram as if you have money, you will be turning off those who don’t care about money and attracting only the ones that do. When you meet the women that care about money and they find out that you don’t have any, they will immediately lose interest. If you are chubby but only take pictures from the chest up and do everything in your power to hide you belly, you are basically attracting people that don’t like women with bellies and of course they aren’t going to be as interested in you when they meet you in person. Once you realize that no one is any better off than anyone else and that what you are bringing to the table is good enough then you can start finding your individual market and using that to be the king or queen in the world that you decide to live in. Mastering Attraction (102) Finding Your NicheMost people think that attracting the opposite sex is about looking a certain way, having a certain amount of money and even having a specific set of personality traits. People are generally taught that you either have the looks of Brad Pitt, the financial security of Oprah and the comedic timing of Kevin Hart or you are left out in the cold. This isn’t true because every physical and personality trait has its positives and negatives. Some people won’t date a person that looks like Brad Pitt because they think that he would be conceited, and they won’t date someone with money like Oprah because they think that she would be selfish. Even comedic timing can work against you because some people would think that you wouldn't take anything seriously. The real keys to attracting the opposite sex are: knowing who you are and what you bring to the table, finding places that are best for your attributes and connecting with the people that will appreciate what you have the most. This premium video will show you how to discover yourself and then figure out how to use that discovery to be the most desirable person in the room not by changing who you are but by putting yourself into a room that is just right for you. Get this videoGet this!Chazz Ellis FacebookYouTubeTwitter
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    Settling Can Be The Best Decision That You Ever Made
    December 11, 2017
    Most people hear the word settle and immediately get negative vibes. They imagine working at a dead end job, being married to someone that they can’t stand and basically going nowhere in life. I think that this is because most people confuse settling with giving up. Whenever I think of settling, I think of my all-time favorite basketball player, Allen Iverson. Iverson was a small, wirery point guard that could score at will and pretty much dominated opponents in the NBA from the late 90’s to the mid 2000’s. Allen lead the league in scoring and even one the M.V.P award given to the player said to be the most valuable in the league. For a while there, Iverson was on top of the world and just couldn’t seem to miss. While Iverson was still good enough to put up great scoring numbers and really help a team, he was traded from the Philadelphia 76ers and sent to Denver. Allen still played well on his new team but was sent to some other teams over the next few seasons and each team wanted him to come off of the bench (this means to not be a player that starts the game but to come in at a later point). Allen Iverson felt that is was an insult for a player that had won an M.V.P and lead the league in scoring to be asked to come off the bench when that player had proven that they were still very good. The truth is that Allen actually had a point and was probably right. Unfortunately, the league didn’t really agree with him and his attitude toward the situation actually cost him the opportunity to keep playing in the league. Now, I don’t think that you have to be a basketball fan to understand where Allen what coming from, what if you had spent several years giving your all to a company and making that company great only to be told that you were to be demoted and asked to work under someone that you felt that you were for more capable then? I think that most of us would balk at the idea and say that since we know our worth that we aren’t going to put up with this kind of humiliation and disrespect. Well, Allen Iverson felt that he knew his worth and wasn’t going to be humiliated by being asked to come off the bench and even if he did for a short period of time, he wasn’t going to do it smiling. Well, anyway, after being out of the league for a little while, Allen Iverson said that he just wanted to play ball and was actually willing to come off of the bench in order to help a team win but there really wasn’t much interest anymore. Iverson was aging, had some off the court issues and it really seemed that the NBA had just moved on. As an Iverson fan, I was outraged by the treatment of a legend and to some degree, I still am. I really just didn’t see why Allen Iverson wasn’t getting a real opportunity to be great again. All of this happened several years ago, and since then I have had a lot of time to think about it and I think that Allen’s problem is that he didn’t know the difference between settling and giving up. Settling is when you take what is in front of you so that you can keep going down the path that leads to your ultimate goal while giving up is doing something that takes you off of the path completely. See, if Allen would have just come off the bench with a great attitude and a big smile on his face, he would have been one sprained ankle, torn ACL or bad shooting slump away from being a starter in the NBA once again. The truth is that every year several players have season ending injuries or just get benched for one reason or another so the odds were actually in Allen’s favor that he would get a chance to be a starter once again. Even if none of those things happened, just by playing well off the bench and showing how much of a team player he was, Iverson could have impressed another team enough for them to make him a starter on their squad. By the time Iverson was willing to accept his new reality, the opportunity was gone. The thing about life is that the opportunities that are right in front of you will quickly become the opportunities that are behind you. Since most people refuse to settle for what is actually available, they won’t accept something until it has become far out of their reach. When Iverson was willing to accept coming off the bench, that opportunity wasn’t available for him anymore and was probably much farther away than being a starter had been before. Now, before you judge Iverson as being silly, stubborn or self-destructive, think about all of the times that you have passed on things that could have been beneficial to you in the long run because they were not exactly what you wanted in the moment? It is almost second nature for us to be self-destructive when it comes to taking things that are right in front of us and using them to do better instead of just walking away with nothing. I believe that this happens for two reasons: one, we care what others think and two, we don’t really believe that we can succeed. Of course Iverson could have sat on the bench and probably got an opportunity to start again but he didn’t want people to see him as washed up or not good enough to start. Obviously, being on a team gives a person a way better shot at starting than not being in the league at all but what will others think if they see a superstar on the bench. A lot of us make these kinds of decisions for the exact same reasons. Sure you are more likely to get married if you stay together but what will your friends and family think if you stay with someone for 6 years without being married? Sure you are more likely to pass your classes in community college but what would your friends think if you didn’t go to that big university right out of high school? A lot of decisions aren’t really made because they seem the best as much as they seem to be the most acceptable to those that we care about. Nobody wants to feel like they are falling behind or are achieving less than the people around them so sometimes it is easier to be seen doing nothing than to be seen doing something that doesn’t make you look like the most successful person in your circle. This is why people buy cars and houses that they can’t afford and strain their families to the point of breaking apart. We are human so we care what other humans think but at some point that has to come second to your long term goals. Most of the time we would take the temporary humiliation if we really believed that it was temporary but most of the time we don’t. The truth is that if people really believed in themselves, they wouldn’t be afraid to take whatever keeps them on the path to success. If you really believed that you could get that promotion, there is no way that you would quit the job and if you really believed that your current relationship was going to be your chance at real happiness, you wouldn’t walk away from that either. People don’t really believe that their dreams are going to come true so they do everything in their power to make it look like their dreams are already coming true hoping that no one can tell the difference. Settling isn’t about giving up or remaining stagnant, it’s about putting yourself in a position to move forward. I would never tell anyone to give up or to take less than what is available to them but I would tell everyone to find something that you can get now that will help you to get what you really want in the future and to do so no matter what anyone else thinks. Settling for SuccessTaking What You Can Get to Get What You Want As you may already know, I have been helping people on YouTube for 5 years with my channel called askchazzellis. I love helping people find their purpose and their happiness through truth and self-reflection. One of the biggest things that I have noticed while helping others is that most of us seem to think that life is all or nothing and "settling" for what is right in front of you is a negative thing. I see this attitude cost people several opportunities that could really help them move forward in their lives. I am writing this book to help people learn the difference between settling and giving up and to give them the strength to use where they are to get where they ultimately want to be. If you can't enjoy the process, you will be miserable with any results. I am using GoFundMe as an opportunity for supporters of askchazzellis to get the book early and at a great discount. Simply donate $10.00 and your reward will be an early digital copy of the book. If you would like to donate more to support the project and ensure its success that would be greatly appreciated. Get this book, make a donation, or both!Learn MoreChazz Ellis FacebookYouTubeTwitter

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  1. I’d love to ask a question.
    How can you tell if someone has genuinemy been hurt or whether they’re just a narcissist looking for an empath?

  2. Today was the first time I’ve seen your videos and I loved it. You have explained and express things very well. If ever anyone has watched your video and wasn’t able to receive what you were offering they weren’t looking to be fulfilled. Awesome …keep it up

  3. In a long distance relationship: if the girl is unemployed because she is unsuccessful at her job search and hence broke and her boyfriend has to pay for her to fly over and live with her, is it justified that he can demand from her anything he wants and treat her in any manner he wants?

  4. *lives with him for a few weeks at a time (he also provides for their living, but he does this out of his own free choice)

  5. Ive been checking out some different relationship advice utube channels and yours was the first one that i felt was real and applicable to the real life situations of the average person. Thank you! The understanding the game webisode was a eye opener. I will definitely keep watching.

  6. Me & my ex fiance had started off on a good conversation. Then all of a sudden I exploded on him. True be told I wasn’t over him. And I’m still not. I want another chance. Mind you he’s a Scorpio. And I’m a Pisces. Do you see us getting back together? If so how can I keep him?

  7. Why after my ex over 5 years break up with me, and start giving me the “hot &a cold” vibe? He wants to get back together and when I finally give in to work it out…..next he insist I move on with my life? He’s doing this over in over!

    1. Because you made yourself an option for him and not a priority! He could deal with someone else and see if it was going to put him in a better position than he was with you. When he figured out that he could be, he chose someone else.

  8. Not sure if I ask a question it would get answered. I just ran into your videos on YouTube and now I’m stuck on your channel. I do have questions, just want to be sure I’m not asking for no reason.

  9. (please give me your opinion. I am so confuse and i need answer)
    I totally agreed when you said that we can’t leave them when we are at the lowest point.
    I met my bf and things was really fine until one day he received a call that he needs to move to another country forever with his family. He and his mother planned to get us engage before he leave but things aren’t work because they don’t want to rush things as he left really soon after he received the call. So he and his mother decided and promised me to come back and put a ring on me after a year because for some reason they’re not allowed to go out from that country after a year. As the day passed by, i found out that he cheated on me by flirting another girls through messages. This happened after he moved to that country. As i promised to myself to leave any guy who cheated on me, I did, but he’s begging me to stay until now. He admit his mistake and promised me that this won’t happened again. I am so confuse of myself as i’m still loving him. I found that he has good qualities compared to bad things which really making me confuse now. He treat me like a princess that you couldn’t ever imagine which was really makes me happy. The only problem that he has is he’s doing things behind my back. So last days i confront and tell him that both of us will not control each other anymore like we used to not to go out with a friend with different gender alone. I said it’s time for me no make new guy friends as i’m so mad after he cheated on me. The woman that he’s flirting with was a girl that he picked up her number in public and they met with each other once before he left and without me knowing about it. This move that i’m going with leads me to be a depressed girl as i’ve never go out with any guys, alone even friend and to be true i’ve never cheated on anybody.
    -I’m thinking that if set ourself with no rules in our relationship to let him and me do whatever we want will end up us loving someone else which is the last thing that i want.
    -I don’t know if i should let us have a space for us and not contact each other and meet with each other after a year. The worst part is, we’re in long distance relationship and they’s no way to meet within this one year.
    -Or should I give him another chance which I myself don’t trust him at all because this has been the 2nd time he done this.

    please help me. I am so confuse.

  10. i have a question.
    im in a long term relationship of 3 years. i not long found out that my girlfriend had cheated on me. although she didnt actually make sexual contact with the other person. she was just texting him sexual things and showing him pictures of her body and also had plans to meet up with this guy in person etc. when she was confronted about it she seemed genuinely sorry and disgusted in her self. she told me her reason was becuase she wanted attention. i still love her but i want to know how likely is it that she may cheat again. or wont she ever cheat again becuase she got caught? in the mean time she told me she is going to prove her love to me and so i can trust her. she also had no plans on telling me she had cheated and when i asked she said no she didnt do it. until i told her that if she wants to fix this she needs to be honest. after all a relationship needs honesty to work. am i doing the right thing to allow her to prove her self and how likely is it she could cheat again?

  11. Hi there.
    I love your videos and find them very helpful.
    I have a question concerning an ex boyfriend of 10years ago.We lost a baby and the relationship went downhill fron there.We were both young and were’nt ready to be parents but he stuck by me for a while after the miscarriage until I finally ended things for good.I was 19 at the time.
    We lost touch and I had kids along the way.
    He started attending barbeques at my house a few years back as he hangs in the same circles as I do and we got along as friends and eventually he got me alone after a few yrs of attending without anything really coming of our short conversations while socialising.
    He appologised to me for how things went and gave his side and we argued a bit but it was helpful to get off our chests.I thought that was it and that we had moved on but recently he cornered me again and brought it up and we ended up kissing.
    We didnt hav contact again for 6months and ths weekend we slept together which ai know was wrong of me to do and now we are back to no contact.
    I don’t know how to handle the situation as I realise I still have deep feelings for him and yet when we get together I seem to push him away out of fear that he may not want to get back with me.What do I do?How will I know if this could become a serious relationship again or if its just him playing games because he knows he can get to me emotionally?

  12. If i friend zone a guy to cope with him not wanting to be in a relationship even though we both have real feelings for each other will that make him reevaluate the decision he made or will that just make him want to invest more in someone else

  13. Are you able to receive questions, via email or do you have to pay in order to do so? Because I have this situation that I recently went through with an ex and I would love your input on on it…?

  14. Question: i just watched your video on how to make a guy chase you and my question is, “how do you accept victory?” You mentioned several things that one should not do, but, “what SHOULD you do?”

  15. I met a female about eight years ago we were living together for 7 1/2 years I was helping her take care of her children and take them to school as the youngest one got closer to getting out of high school I noticed that she began to stop cooking and washing my clothes like she used to . One night we were sitting at home and I was making a statement and I noticed that she had snapped at me so I snapped back then the next day she started telling me that she wanted me to start opening up doors for her and that she felt like she didn’t mean anything to me I know with their opening up doors for her came from watching her friends boyfriend open up doors for her my question to you is after the break up after she asked me to leave I left for three weeks and she still wanted to sleep with me and then out of nowhere I stop receiving calls or texts from her and we had just gotten out of a relationship that was 7 1/2 years I asked her was she seeing someone and she’s asked me what made me ask that question then she finally said she met someone that she is interested in my question to you is with no contact is there a chance for us to get back together because I do love her and is her new male friend now just a rebound that she do not plan to be with forever ? Also in the process of me leaving her place all I did was grab my clothes but I left a lot of things at her house I was supposed to set up a date to come pick them up because I said I would when I heard that she had met someone else I still have not went to go pick them up nor has she called me to come get them so my question to you is with the no contact do I have opportunity to get her back and why is it that she have not call me and said now that you are on vacation you can come pick up your things she knows I’m on vacation I have not text or talk to her for about 18 days since she told me that she had met someone that she was interested in I would like to get your advice and if it all possible can you answer some of my questions. I just would like to know if there is a wrap for me and her getting back together you have to think 7 1/2 years is a very long time to be with somebody and help them when they did not have anything and they were really really do I am bad prior to me coming into their life.

  16. Why do men send pictures of their penis to women? Should I as a woman feel bad for calling his penis a baby carrot and insulting him after he sent a picture of his penis and felt that was disrespectful, even though i liked the guy?

  17. Hello, If a guy tells you he loves you, he needs you in his life, you will make a phenomenal wife , etc but is not willing to endure a long distance relationship with you because it will be too hard on both of us, is he telling me these things because he knows i can help him with his future goals?

    1. Long distance relationships are more prone to fail than not. Opportunities and space to creat affection and excitement will most of the time defeat emotional attachment.

  18. Hey my name is Erica I have a question. Ok so I have this friend she seeing this guy.That she really likes so they hang out during the week because her schedule is very crazy she’s a actually a hairstylist. Her schedule is nuts besides that so they hang out during the week when she’s off work and he’s got a busy summer so he tells her don’t give my kisses away he said little things like in a flirting way. He picks you up from work he takes her home. But she also knows he’s one of those kind of guys wear he has a college education he has his own place his own car a good job works for the City of Atlanta she knows he has probably got a big head because of that .He also says right now he doesn’t really want a girlfriend just a friend. She asked me can she be more than a friend I mean a girlfriend. Mind you she’s met his nephew she’s met the nephew’s girlfriend and his niece the nephews child she’s also met some of his close friends. So what do you think. So I can tell her and she can stop asking me. Thank you hope to hear from you soon.

  19. My ex bf Of 1.5 year is undergoing a lot of stress and financial issues due to his new business being unsuccessful. We had a wonderful relarionship. He asked for a break but I pushed him to either work it out or break up immediately. He chose to break up but the next day told me to give him time to stand on his feet, he will come back when he is stronger. Been NC for nearly 4 weeks now, he reached out a few times just to check on me but I answered short and close-ended or none. What should I do now? I want him to know I am here for him but at the same time don’t want to be his doormat.

  20. Good Morning Chaz!
    1.Do f*ck boys ever fall in love and treat that wonan good or do they always treat. every woman badly?
    2. Can a woman make a f*ck boy a real man?

  21. You don’t lose your human rand constitutional rights just because you have limited finances. No one has the right to treat you badly. She is not a slave just because she lives with him. If he forces sex that’s called rape. If he hits her that’s called battery. If he uses derogatory speech towards her that is assault. We are still in America. However if she wants more respect from him its better to have any income than none at all.

  22. Hello Chazz,
    Thanks for your work in the internet community. I made a gofundme donation for your book .
    I haven’t received an email or link or any information about when or how I will receive my digital copy. If you will let me know what’s happening with that, it would be greatly appreciated.

  23. What if you just get tongue tied And aren’t sure what to say because prior attempts seem to fall flat? And he came to you so you look him in the eyes and smile waiting for what he seems to have to say but all he does is run his hand through his hair frustrated and say something like good luck bye? Twice.

    Secondly, what if you can’t respond to his reply message and hr after you just say happy Valentine’s day, which seemed happy to hear from me, right away but when you do answer his questions, simple “where are you now? Still in Ireland? “.. he doesn’t reply to your answer or when you ask him the same questions back ?

  24. Hopefully Lord will send me Mr Right soon.or do in time those . I’m been single for 4 years now . I’m just continue on focusing on me for right now.

  25. I got out of a long-term relationship/engagement, took some time for myself to refocus. Jumped back into dating, met a cool guy. We chatted for a few weeks. He lives in a different Province than me, and we agreed to meet. Our first meeting, I felt like I I already knew him. I was at ease, and not very nervous. Our weekend was awesome, fun, sexy, laughed a lot, cooked together. All around great time. He asked me to come back the following weekend, and I did. Second trip however wasn’t so great, he had to work a lot, and didn’t have a lot of time for me. The effort made on the second trip out wasn’t the same as the first. He had left for work early, and I had to drive 11 hours back home, and so I ended up leaving while he was at work. He was actually upset with me for doing this, but he didn’t communicate that he had intended on seeing me off, or that I should wait for him to return from work before leaving. There obviously was a misunderstanding of his interest for me, because of the lack of communication. I didn’t think he was that into me and told him so. I wanted to clear the air, but he had to go off to work in a different area of town, saying there wasn’t much service there. So I sent a few texts to him relaying my intention on clearing the air and getting things into a better State, cuz I like this guy. And he gave me the impression that he likes me too because he was upset that I left without saying bye. I think my need to clear the air and and set things straight has discouraged him from communicating with me… he’s made it seem that he’s very busy up at work, with little service, but I’ve seen him on social media… so I’m kind of feeling slighted. He said he would call me when he returned from this job, which I thought was yesterday or this morning, but he hasn’t called me yet. I’ve sent my quota of texts, 2, and I’m not sending anymore…but I’m getting upset now.

    What did I do wrong? Can I change his perception of me at this point, and why isn’t he responding?

  26. Hey Chazz, just ran across your videos on you tube, find them to be very helpful and for real, I do have a question for you though? I was in a toxic relationship for 3 yrs had enough and left he and I still talk and hangout, question is. The other day he bought me lunch to work. Arbys my favorite I got into the vehichle with him to have lunch and out of blue he sais what are you wearing you smell like a french whore? Im like WTF, I really showed him no reaction just said Im not wearing any perfume then he said must be your laundry degerent the more I thought about it the more I couldnt figure out why did he say this , anyway shot him a text stating that I seriously wasnt wearing any perfume thanked him for lunch and apologized that my ” french whore ” smell bothered his nostrils but added I liked my laundry detergent smell cause it smells clean and fresh to me, no apoligy from him. No nothing he didnt respond to this at all can you give any insight to this type of situation and this has happend more than once with him towards me this is some of the reason why Im no longer in a relationahip with him

  27. Let me tell u first U r just awesome…u r perectly analysing things and super perfectly advising and helping people.i came to know that I was a rebound for me ex…after I realise that he was cheating on me i left him.but now he is chasing me like hell…he says that he loves me n he will never leave me and all that stuff..but he is still dating his ex…m very confused I want him back…but should I trust him or let it go forever…plz help

  28. hey chazz what to do when the mother of your child of 8 years move to another state after a month of break up and dates a stud.im confused cause she call her a friend but yet the stud spends the night,plus she let me come over and spend the night with the kids ,like basically come when ever

  29. Hy chazz 🙂 I have been speaking to a guy for a while now ,he is really busy and we only get in contact on weekends .When ever we talk he is fully invested in our conversation of can go on for hours and says he likes me

    I don’t know if he really does like me but not enough to make time for me during the week or if his even busy it sounds silly to me because after our last converation we have he legit doesn’t go online until the next Friday night after work

    His a workaholic and I dont want to demand more time even though he is getting in touch with me when he can

    What do I do

  30. hi i hope you can help me as fast as you can

    I have been dating this wonderful person for a really really really long time now. he has always treated me as if I was a princess but lately, he’s changed and I don’t think its family problems. he has been randomly getting mad at me for no reason and has been extremely distant. two days ago he told me that he is thinking about breaking up with me. but the thing is he hasn’t told me we are officially over. I don’t know if this is just a bad month for him or if this is a toxic relationship. whenever someone asks him why he loves me he looks at them like they are crazy then changes the subject. he used to always tell me that he loved me and now he doesn’t at all. I honestly don’t know what to do but I really hope you can help me

    thank you

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